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FIRST TRIMESTER RECAP

Pregnancy announcement with ultrasound

I can't even believe I'm writing this....but we are HAVING A BABY! It still hasn't fully sunk in.
Now that the news is out I can finally share all the details with you!. This is going to be a longer post, so get cozy.

 

WAIT, WHAT?!

James and I decided that in 2019/2020 we would be happy with getting pregnant, and if it happened, it happened. Even when it did, we were still shocked and so thankful.

One afternoon I felt a little off and the thought popped into my head...am I pregnant? I went to the store and bought half a dozen tests. I'm pretty sensitive so I could tell something was up and took a test right away. I took two pink dye tests and thought maybe I saw a second line, but also maybe I was imaging it?? I told James the tests were negative and moved on.

I couldn't get the extremely faint possible line out of my head and later that night I dug through my trash like a dirty hamster and picked out the test. I SWEAR the faint line was a little darker and got the prickly sweats. I went back downstairs and googled furiously in front of the TV under the guise of re-watching Schitt's Creek episodes.

If you know me, you know when I have a hunch I have to FULLY investigate every detail. Turns out, the lines can get darker causing an evaporation line to appear and can give a false positive reading

SO, you guessed it, I went upstairs and took a digital test. Lo and behold, POSITIVE. Cue the hyperventilating happy cries. I went downstairs and definitely caught James by surprise. PLOT TWIST: by the time I took the test to James there was an error indicator that popped up. In the words of Michael Scott: "SNIP SNAP SNIP SNAP!" I resolved to just take another test in the morning.

OK, fast forward to 5:30 am Monday morning. I snuck out of bed to the bathroom since I couldn't sleep anyways. I took another digital test trying not to get my hopes up. Then BAM, it was positive. I jumped back into bed and was going to tell James that morning. Turns out, he was already awake from hearing me fumble with the wrapper in the bathroom and knew exactly what I was doing. I broke the news to him and we hugged and cried and hugged and cried until reality sunk in a little, and then got ready for work.

I always imagined telling James in a cute way, but that was so far from my mind when I found out. I'm glad we both found out at the same time.

 

HOW I FELT THE FIRST TRIMESTER

WEEK 4-5

I didn't really have many symptoms except feeling bloated and sore and EXTREMELY tired. I thought "phew, maybe I won't have morning sickness." My mom said she never had any so maybe I got lucky. We shared the news with family about a week after we found out.

WEEK 6-13

The morning sickness hit me like a ton of bricks and lasted all day every day. Plain carbs and the toilet were my best friends. I had recently left my job and that ended up being a blessing in disguise. Basically any food or smell made me sick. Even the smell of the dishwasher running, or the hot water coming out of the shower head would get me. Wild, I know.

Life was serving me up a piece of humble pie in a major way. You know how in the movie Matilda, when Ms. Trunchbull makes that poor kid eat that giant chocolate cake? Well, that's how big my humble pie felt. I had my first appointment around week 10 and had my first ultrasound.

I'm so thankful James was there to support me through the rough part.

WEEK 14

The light at the end of the tunnel appeared. I finally was able to keep some plain foods and water down and started to feel a little more like myself.

SO, WHAT'S NEXT?

Now that I'm feeling so much better, I look forward to celebrating little baby Turner and getting back to work. I am getting back into my daily workouts and making more food, which I'm sure my body is thankful for.

pregnancy journal

I was hesitant to post this because my first trimester experience wasn't all rainbows and butterflies. It was actually a little bit of a lonely time during the bad weeks since I was always at home, looking for a job (which seemed like an impossible task at the time), and hadn't shared the news with anyone except immediate family.

But, I feel like it's important to be honest and talk about those harder experiences. Someone out there may be feeling the same way as you. I know that reading others' stories helped me get through it. Everyone's journey is different, and I look forward to learning more through mine!

WHAT I LEARNED FROM PUBLISHING MY FIRST 50 BLOG POSTS

orange sequin skirt and coffee graphic tee
  1.  People can be cruel, but you HAVE to block out the haters. Ponder something for just a second to see if it's actually something constructive. If it's not, ignore it. I'm not saying that these comments don't upset me, because sometimes they do. You just HAVE to realize that no matter what you do, you can still receive hate from trolls. Block em out. If your "friends" are poking fun of your blog, they're not your friends. Cut the fat and move on.
  2. Blogging is NOT for the faint of heart. If you you are blogging about something you're not super passionate about, rethink why you're doing what you're doing. You have to be so so passionate about something to work on it for that many hours a week, and to not get burnt out.
  3. Write with your own voice. Lot's of times I find myself reverting back to my formal writing background and realize, this doesn't sound like me. Cue the rewrite process. Scrap, rewrite, repeat.
  4. If you have a writing block, save a draft and take a lap around where you're working. I used to sit and rack my mind and get so down on myself when I couldn't think of how to write about something. Think of something from the perspective of your reader. Wat would they want to know?
  5. Working with a significant other can be hard. Take the pain points and create processes to avoid frustration in the future. For example, when I have James helping me take a picture, I have him snap a few then let me look so I can rearrange a space. This saves us from some of the worst fights.
  6. Everyone and their dog has something to say, but that doesn't mean that what you have to say isn't important. Period. 
  7. Time blocking is your best friend. If you are a perfectionist or get caught up in the details, find a system that holds you accountable for time that works for you.
  8. My last point. This is something I have had to learn through life in general, not just blogging. Stop being so hard on yourself. Let your ideas flow and scribble them down, even if it sounds weird. That's how you share your unique point of view with people and how you provide value through your blog. There's only one of you, so get over the imposter syndrome and OWN it. This is something I tell myself every day.  

WHAT I LIKE TO DO AT THE START OF EACH SEASON

At the beginning of each season there are a few things I like to do to set the right intentions.

1. Clean out my closet. If there are things I haven't touched in a year, they're out. By doing this each season, I can't let myself get away with the excuse that I'll keep it until next fall when I didn't even wear it this fall.

This is also a great time to figure out where you have missing pieces in your wardrobe. You can find those holes and plan to invest in those pieces, especially if they are basics.

If you are limited on closet space (who isn't?), then storing larger items that are for the winter under your bed in bins may help you out. It's so satisfying to have everything organized and ready to go. And honestly, I'm a much more pleasant person when my space is put together.

2. I like to try new recipes. I pick five main dishes and a few sides to make for the season and try to always have those ingredients on hand. This prevents me from wasting food in the fridge and eating out. It's also helpful when going to the grocery store. My personal nightmare is wondering the aisles after a long day at wort not knowing what to get.

3.  Build in some time for fun. When you break it down, each season is about three month. If you make time to do something seasonal once a month, that's a lot of small fun activities! Having something to look forward to always help Friday come a little quicker.

I know I always look forward to my favorite antique fair and decorating my patio of fall. Or, in the summer, we try out a new cocktail recipe and make sure to get plenty of sun. In the winter I love to frequent the holiday markets and break out the festive decor.

This is a great way to learn about your community and meet fun people!

Do you make lists for every season? Tell me about them!